A Mother can be A Human or
A divine Mother.
ONLY A FEW DAYS BACK WHOLE WORLD WAS
CELEBRATING Mothers day, however for
Us we celebrate our Mother Amma Every Moment
of our life. Last year 2011 on May 15, my Mother Amma left her
material body for a new Journey.
Why do I write a blog on my Mother?
Everyone thinks that they have a great Mother. However everyone may not
know that time to time our great Mother DO GO IN TO A HUMAN MODE and there
are some mothers who never slip from Divine Mother mode to Human Mother mode ..
When a MOTHER lives for herself we called Human, when A mother lives for her
family we called her A Mother , BUT WHEN A MOTHER LIVES FOR OTHER NOT FOR
HERSELF AT THAT TIME WE CALLED HER A DIVINE MOTHER AND CIVILIZATION. our mother Amma ended up in that category
by her Karma.
this MAY inspire future
young children to be a Divine mother, or at least will give a new direction
toward a right path.
I also felt there was no justification if I do
not share or write this My experience of the finest Quality within a
Human (AMMA). Was giving up for Other, Here I seen it from her every moment of
my life, here i felt it every moment of my life. For my wife for my
children for our relatives they will not able assess our AMMA
. Because for them that story of her life book pages 96 but for
them , that book is available only from pages 70 or 80 or page 90 they don't know
what was written on other pages because they were not around her from
the start. Or in the same manner our children will never able to see what some
of our brothers-sisters good moments or helped each other when
you were young or even before their Birth, for them your life start as
nature allowed them to see you are able to understand you. This the main reason
I decided to write . This will give a comfort zone for them.
In
Amma' s case Her all Grand children her all daughters in law, her son in law all
looked after her very well.
Here the world most
authentic, the most respected & oldest scripture Vedas what it say about
Mother read
Women in Rig Vedic hymns
In the marriage hymn (RV10.85.26), the wife "should
address the assembly as
A commander." [6]
A Rig Veda hymn says:[7]Rig Veda, Book 10. HYMN
CLIX. Saci Paulomi.-I am the banner and the head, a mighty arbitress am I: I am
victorious, and my Lord shall be submissive to my will.
There are also verses which demean women.[8]
Rig Veda, Book 8. HYMN XXXIII. Verse 17.Saci
Paulomi.
-Indra himself hath said, The mind of woman
brooks not discipline, Her intellect hath little weight
"Janani Janmabhumischa Svargadapi
Gariasi" i.e. The mother and the motherland are superior to heaven.
Those Sanskrit verse says Mother is the most
important position as well as highest level for any human at the same time that
mother is also a woman too, therefore here we need to understand
one but the very clear meaning and CONTRADICTORY MEANING ON WOMEN OR
MOTHER in above three Sanskrit sloks , And how to apply. As far as my
understanding is that all respects come with responsibility and action . Mother
IS FIRST A WOMAN has to act the way she grown or grows her child from
birth to end. Every step, and at every action she just gives, she gives milk,
sanskaar, knowledge, pure love, health. Confidence, assurance, shelter however
the most important she does it Without any expectation nor gain nor desire
to gain.
The same mother can be a Wife, a
sister, a sister in law, (an Aunty) a Masi, a Faiba at that time, if she
still maintain the same quality & dignity of that Divine Mothers what
she does to her children than that Woman turn in to a new elevation of that
category of the Divine mother (woman), and My Mother Amma lived Her rest of her life her
life for others, therefore, everyone called her Amma (Mother)
Her great Traits, Nobleness, very graceful
personality was the aroma of her life. We all children had a tremendous attachment with Her, however it was as Mother but there is a good mother ,
However once we come into contact with lots of different people from all
walk of life . our understanding and assessment of our Mother Gone very
High. Most of things we started noticing after age forty ; especially
after coming to America, seeing how others live, how other cook, how others
treat their family or friends or employee, seeing How ME , ME mentality, seeing
How people pollute( unknowingly ) their own children with lie to serve
individual agenda. We saw all kinds of experience in America. For Indian
Children it is very confusing, they have inner sensor is programmed by Indian
parents based on Indian value and we want to use in America or trained to use
in America without Indian environment. For Desi Children I
assumed is a constant struggle for them to figure it out, filter it out and
not many places where seniors are there to tell them what is right and what is
wrong with a command.
We called our mother Amma and whenever
she lived whether it is Rangoon, Calcutta, Rajkot, Mumbai or in USA she
was always known as Amma. When I was young I used to get upset why my
mother is not saying a single negative world about some of our relatives who
used to do injustice to her. (They were just an average human of emotions, now I
have no bad feelings)
I used to think why she is not
buying jewelry and expensive cloth for her Instead of just giving money to
other for education, or other need, I used to questioning her nobleness
and not counter arguing or not saying anything about anybody but just
beautiful smile on face with very calm, Serene and composed posture.
I used to feel why she is not asking for her
interest and her family interest I have never seen her
arguing or throwing pots of pan or polluting children's mind with ‘ she is bad” or “
they are no good” . She never taught us to live selfishly, never told us to
come first or never pushes for a grade, but always her purse is open for
our hobby or educations, at the same time she was very careful that
we stay good human first. My parent knew being a balance & generous Human
is more important than some man made status.
She was a true example of what a dream wife
for my father. After cooking 3 or
sometime 4 meals for ( people every day still by 8 Pm she would be sitting with my father look like fresh
flower with clean cloth , we all brother
sister hovering around our parents, reading magazine, news papers or
listening babuji stories of Gandhian speeches or some
Sanskrit slok. Or about her College days at Ferguson or in Rangoon. It was so good time that without Mercedes,
without a palace, without expensive
jewelry, without ipad and
without iphone. The finest time and finest moment which was inscribed by
her pure love for family without any effort in all our heart and mind .IT WILL
GO WITH PROCESS OF THE NATURE.
When we came from Burma we lost almost 3300
Acre land, a rice mill, and lots of jewelry. My parents has to come
without anything’s but great memory and all alive to India. My
parents had two option in Burma to take what Burmese Mob allowed, we had
so many boxes of big jewelry each weight 10-12 pound. During war time we
had only one option is to take it one box for life safety and easy to hid,
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it was a dilemma for my parents to
take our jewelry or Take my Faiba's box. It was an extremely emotional situation
as per my father. My father Just told my mother that we took responsibility of “Maya
Faiba (my father’s Sister and Daughter in law of Dr. P.J. Mehta) Jewelry
and we need to return it her” my Mother at that time without any grudge and
quarrel let her go her box into war torn Burma of 1939-1945 .However her good
Karma paid back Her back very fast. My mother wrote a letter to her
father and explained our situation from Chicagoan, Luckily my maternal
grandfather he kept everything ready for us by the time we reached India after
a few months.
A spacious but very simple home for our
seven brother sister plus parents., we had a four rooms with fully furnished every
room. Even we all children have our closet , good
supplied of tailored cloth for summer and winter and each one had their own study tables. Her
pantry was so nicely made that still I have to see anything like it, she
had a big bangle closet (not box) We were seven growing
up kids but we all have to get up very early ,twice a day showers, sitting with her
in Puja, we used to get freshly cooked breakfast. In those days we never had
Gas or electric stove but (Sagdi) coal bucket kind of cooking support. Then
in lunch again we used to get a full lunch with complete Indian thali
with (kachubar, raiyta) all pickles, papad, and always some sweet and fresh chapatti. And
again in after noon around 4 clock she used to make tea
with some bateta pauva, or some very light snack and at around 7:30 we used
to have evening meal most of time with milk, Bajri, Kichadi,
Above duty my mother used to day after day,
month after month and years after years till we brother moved to Mumbai in
early 1960 and Amma started getting some help from My sister Jyoti
and later Pallavi. I was speaking to my Brother Atul is really painful things
to cook every day 3-4 times for 9 people and plus two Helper. Our helpers were
only can help on pots and pan cleaning and cloth washing. In Kitchen my mother
never allowed any other hand to touch food.
She used to say when you cook your food by
your own hand it blends your (BHAV) no word in English but close world
can be a pure love. At that time I never realized what she mean but now I have
my own family and I have my own experience with both generations without any
hesitation I wish new generation understand and learn to sacrifice .She
herself always so fresh and used to take two and sometime three quick showers
with changing cloth. Even at her age 90 she used to take two showers a day and keep herself fresh like a spring
morning (she started getting help in the shower after her age 89 until she
passed away at the age of 96) and I am sure she used to wash her own cloth till
age 88.
Her father my maternal grandfather gave her
almost 2 lacs rupees in late 1946 after we came back from Burma Penniless. But
she never spent a single rupees out of it on her intensely (it could be today's
3-4 cror rupees. Her purse is always open for needy and children's ' happiness
and hobby.
Lots of time she had to deal with selfish and
less ME, ME, ME KIND OF close relatives and there could be lots of situations
where she could have asked for her interest or her desire, her wishes, OR HER
OWN MONEY. But no, she was so divine a living goddess. Some jealous elements if
said bad thing on her
Back for her she used her that element get
the most respect and look after well. A beauty she is not ending my both
Gandhian Uncles one Vaju kaka in Burma for 17 years and Mulu kaka in India were
part of the family. She taught us so well to respect them the best, look after
them the best possible and always used to take good quality care of them. That
upbringing created TREMENDOUS BOND BETWEEN OUR BROTHER SISTER WE NOW SIX
BROTHER SISTER IF SOMETHING GO WRONG WITH ANYONE OF US WE ARE READY WHOLE
HEARTILY, THIS OUR BOND SOME TIME MAKE SOME PEOLE UNCOMFORTABLE ESPECIALLY IN
TIME OF NUCLEUS FAMILY FOR US WE COME LAST BUT OTHER FIRST. She rarely visited
other home; her happiness was her husband and her family
and her guest at her HOME. Guest always got the most important
respect at our home. She has never spoken bad about anyone, she never said any
negative thing about anyone
At that time that was her sacrifice is later
part of her life came back to her in a very graceful way. Her last 30
years of life she had so many people around, her all children even her
grandchildren looked after her so well. She was taken care like a child with
lots of pure love and affection not only from her children but hundred and
hundred close, distance family and friends... If someone wants the proof of the
Law of Karma I have well proven and WELL seen in her own life.
IF SOME ONE WANT TO SEE HAPPY FAMILY, IF
SOMEONE WANT SEE YOUR DAUGHTER
MAKES HER NEW FAMILY HAPPY, IF YOU WANT SEE
YOUR LATER PART OF YOUR LIFE
HAPPY, IF YOU WANT GOOD HEALTH. THEN I WOULD
RECOMMEND HER PATH IS THE BEST
AND HER ACTION OF LIVING FOR OTHER,
SACRIFICING FOR OTHER, GIVING FOR OTHER
AND THERE IS NO WORLD IN HER DICTIONARY SUCH
AS "I' OR "ME" IT WILL BE
DIFFICULT BUT YOU WILL SEE
THE RESULT BEYOUND YOUR IMAGINATION NOT WITHIN YOU BUT AROUND YOU.
My Father Babuji always used to say "when you grow a Bitter
Mellon tree ,you get bitter Mellon and
If you grow a sweet mango tree, you get sweet mango.
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